What is My Ideal Kind of God?

The good thing about Blogging is that you can just have a conversation without always quoting a bunch of scholarly authors. Here's an exchange I've had in the comments section to this post of mine [Edited somewhat].

One Wave asked me this:

"I'm wondering what your ideal God would do if the world He created went against the things He knew would be best."

I answered:

We're talking anout an omni-benelovent God, correct?

Then I would at least like him to have the same kind of love for his creatures as a mother does for her children.

Do not respond that God does this. He doesn't. Yes, parents punish their childen, although, with Parent Effectiveness Training, they do not need to spank or hit them. But the punishments are called "discipline," beause they are geared toward helping to teach their children how to behave. A good mother never punishes her children in any harsh manner at all simply because they deserve it. It's always to teach them to be better. No mother sends a proverbial hurricane because her child "swears" or says "no" to his momma.

Can you honestly tell me your omnibenelovent God is more loving than a good mother? Really?

Even humane governments do not pluck out a criminals eyes, or maim him for life, or starve him to death, or burn him alive, or decapitate his head. Even when it comes to capital punishment we demand that it's not done cruelly.

Then an anonymous person wrote:

Yes, God is more loving then a good mother. God, the creator of the universe, died for my wrongdoings. There is no greater love than laying down ones life for a friend. However Jesus died before I knew him, and he even died for those who rejected him.

How good is love to only love those who love you?

Then I responded:

Okay, anon, now tell me why my sins are such dreadful things that someone had to die for my sins?

Besides, there is no coherent understanding of exactly how Jesus' death on the cross helps us.

Furthermore, if God is omniscient then he should understand what sin is from our perspective, or, if he knew in advance that he just couldn't stomach our sins, he should never have created us knowing that he'd have to send an overwhelming majority to hell. Why do that when everything was already perfect for him such that he needed nothing, desired nothing, and had everything he wanted...everything...he lacked nothing. To say he just wanted to share his love isn't a satisfactory answer, since he would also know that to share his love he would also have to condemn a great majority of human beings to hell in the process. To say he wanted free willed creatures who freely love him isn't a satisfactory answer either, for then arises the difficulty of whether or not there will be sin and free will in heaven. If there isn't free will in heaven, then why bother creating us on earth? If there is, and God can also guarantee people won't sin, then why didn't he just create us in heaven in the first place? If there is free will and sin in heaven then why bother to die for us on earth?