Tribal Boundaries around Christian Giving

What I like least about the Evangelical community I grew up in is that generosity and compassion stop at the doors of the church. Not literally at the doors to the church building, though sometimes that is true, but at the boundaries of Evangelical Christianity. My inability to get comfortable with this boundary around generosity and love was one reason I left.

Within the church community, scriptural mandates about clothing the poor, feeding the hungry, or comforting widows and orphans are matters of routine practice. So are the hefty, reliable donations that buy things like classrooms, choir robes, buses, and even baseball fields. In my home church, the ten percent tithe was a benchmark, below which a family might fall because of financial hardship or otherwise with pangs of guilt. But giving went beyond money. It included time, skill and emotional energy. Many people gave to the church and to other Christians at great personal cost.

I have been a recipient of this generosity. In the days after my father’s death, my husband commented with astonishment at the warm food that arrived meal after meal. I, who had grown up in the church, was more startled by his surprise. Since then, week after month after year, men of the congregation have come to fix my mother’s plumbing, to replace loose shingles, to cart my nephews (who she is raising) to club meetings and outings. They give without calling attention to themselves and when thanked they deflect credit: “God has given much to me . .”

Within Evangelical communities, this kind of behavior is the norm. It is an unquestioned part of what it means to follow in Christ’s footsteps.

But if problems and needs exist in the world outside the Church, that is a different matter. Yes, there are ministries to inner city youth and to the elderly and to new immigrants, but always with the intent of winning converts. If the beneficiaries are not believers, then coaching soccer, providing transportation to medical appointments, or filling hungry stomachs is a means to an end. Catholics in Latin America and Muslims in Afghanistan and Hindus in India accuse Protestant aid organizations of exploiting human desperation to entice conversion. They are not altogether wrong. Even on U.S. college campuses, “friendship missionaries” target lonely foreign students, offering companionship with an agenda.

What is ugly to me is that helping to make the world a little better isn’t an agenda in itself. Children in poor neighborhoods have rotten schools? Of course it’s a problem, but not a Christian problem. Drinking water contains high levels of heavy metals? Definitely a problem, but not a Christian problem. Blood transfusions in short supply? Hospitals struggling to provide services for the uninsured poor? Farmland being eliminated by suburban sprawl? Arms traders providing machine guns to orphaned children in the Sudan? Manatees becoming extinct because of pleasure craft activities off the coast of Florida? Not Christian problems.

The Evangelicals I grew up with might occasionally and individually take on such concerns independent of their faith, but they certainly wouldn’t systematically take responsibility for these concerns because of their faith. And any activities along these lines had no place among the moral and spiritual teachings we received every Sunday and Wednesday. No teaching, modeling, discussion, mentoring or practice. The only model was “give to the church and through the church.” By college, it occurred to me that this leaves an awful lot that needs doing in the world to agnostics and Jews and Buddhists and those not-real (liberal) Christians. To make matters worse, while they struggle to do it all, Evangelicals get to sit by, not just with the certainty of their own salvation, but also with a certain sense of moral superiority.

Not only does such a posture seem ugly, it falls short of the thinking of even our early spiritual ancestors. If one looks at the gospel stories, many of Jesus’s miracles and acts of compassion are not accompanied by a “come follow me” message, nor are they tribal. They are simply done. The blind seeing and the lame walking and the hungry being satisfied or even having enough wine for a wedding celebration—all of these are worthwhile in their own right. They aren’t means to an end, they are simply manifestations of Goodness.

When Jesus preaches the beatitudes, He doesn’t say, “Blessed are the meek Jews for they shall inherit the earth.” Nor does he say, “Blessed are the merciful, for they shall have mercy if they profess that I am Lord.” The message isn’t about inclusion, exclusion, or conversion. In other words, it isn’t about tribal boundaries. It is about meekness, and mercy and love.

9 comments:

mikespeir said...

"Gal 6:10 So then, while we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, and especially to those who are of the household of the faith."

It's not supposed to be exclusive of those who are not "the the household of faith," though.

I think I saw much more of this problem in the fellowship in which I was raised: the Assemblies of God. When I later migrated to the United Methodist Church I found charity more commonly being done for its own sake rather than exclusively to try to gain converts. Oddly, this used to annoy some within the more conservative ranks of that denomination.

Manifesting Mini Me (MMM) said...

Hi Valerie - thanks for a thoughtful post. I agree that Y'shua demonstrated that faith is an expression and He expressed love without ulterior motivation or covert goals (even though He does have a habit of speaking in a way that befuddles superficial or arrogant approaches to seizing the divine). He doesn't promote a literal approach towards scriptural literature, and His motives are founded in expressing pure love.

From firsthand experience I have small expectations from those who practice religious hypocrisy. They can give the appearance of so much power and authority that it was difficult for me to be set free from feelings of unhappiness and a desire to see them punished! I'm learning to accept that some have a small capacity to accept gracious love and express that. I'm learning not to be overly impressed by appearances or gatherings of large numbers of church people or people claiming divine authority!

I know from the deliverance process from compulsion, that hypocrisy is an expression of fear and it is truly sad, but I respect that God loves those who suffer such. Although I don't yet love them as God does, I recognize that is why it is called the "good" news, instead of the supercalifragilisticexpealidocious news! It is a humbling but solid and secure stance.

For so long I never realized that that is the "meat" of the gospel, even though I sometimes still need "milk". Sometimes, when I witness those infected with religious hypocrisy putting that into practice, my prayer is, "God, please pass the baby bottle!" I'm hoping to mature to steak.


Thanks,
3M

District Supt. Harvey Burnett said...

You don't have to print this comment:

This isn't on the post Valerie. I may get back to you on it. But I wanted to say that your book was reviewed by the Christian Research Journal and J.P. Holding in the most recent issue.

They site your errors and all I can say is if you honestly believe and said what they reported, you need to take a real look at the truth before putting out anymore dogma.

Now I wouldn't buy your book anyway, but I would read it and critique it myself. But it seems that all of you on this site could use a good lesson on Nicaea and what it was all about because your sources and current understanding is JACKED!

Since I'm one of those "contortionists and sophists" that you mention on pg. 50 and since I don't care about "truth and goodness" you probably don't care and it's no bother to me, I just wanted to let you know...

Interesting.

eheffa said...

Harvey,
Your statement "you need to take a real look at the truth before putting out anymore dogma".
reminds me of the kettle & black pot, I'm afraid. (Actually, Valerie Turico's writings are refreshingly un-dogmatic...go figure.)


You need to read the book buddy. I have. I thought it was a very reasonable & insightful critique of the Christian faith. Highly recommended.

But Harvey, before you slag someone's writings, perhaps you should read first & critique later?

As far as "Truth" is concerned... Would that be real "truth" or just the "truth" as defined by a collection of anonymous and contradictory authors of the first & second century who were lucky enough to be elevated to canonical status by a convention of politically connected catholic clergymen in the 4th Century? Ah yes. I know that "Truth". It doesn't bear too much critical scrutiny though.

-evan

Unknown said...

This post made me think about the time I visited my parents’ church in 2004, which was during and after the tsumami in Asia. It was impossible for anyone to be thinking about anything else at that time. I was stunned that the pastor did not pray for the people who lost their homes, the children who lost their parents, the many medical workers who were helping the injured. No, he prayed for the strength and endurance of the missionaries where were apparently already moving in to “minister to peoples’ needs” and that those who had been affected by the tsunami (the suffering and injured) would now be more open to receive the Christian message!

zilch said...

Very thoughtful post, Valerie. Luckily, there are also many Christians (and others) who feed the needy without questioning their beliefs. I guess Christianity, like many other belief systems, can act to enlarge one's charity, or to narrow it down.

Obscenitease® Apparel said...

Your post reminded me of my journey Out of Christianity. As far as good deeds, generosity, and giving are concerned... Christians will often recognize that 'the church' has some room to grow. It's been my experience that there are generous people within and without the church. Dogmas and beliefs do not make the people... People create, find, and live out the dogmas that they create. It is quite obvious to me that Christianity has no edge on morality, generosity, etc. Thank you for your transparency!

Unknown said...

My own dim recollections of charitable activities within the evangelical churches I attended in my youth supports Ms Tarico's thesis. I do not recall any Christian that I've ever been associated with closely enough to have knowledge of their charitable activities to have donated to a non-Christian or Christian non-evangelism oriented charity.

Anonymous said...

I agree this is a very sad reality. I recently sat in the car of a good friend with she and her son. Her son recently won one of the states two most coveted scholarships for college which will pay for almost all of his primary degree.

During the conversation, her son recounted that the counselor told him he might want to consider working with AIDS patients or another humanitarian cause instead of being a summer counselor at a Christian camp. My friend and her son both commented on how AIDS patients are less deserving because of their choices. Wow. I agree that some people suffer the weight of choices with negative consequences, but the 'Good Samaritan' did not condemn the beaten man for choosing to take a path known for bandits.

Romans 2:14-16
"For when Gentiles who do not have the Law do instinctively the things of the Law, these, not having the Law, are a law to themselves,
in that they show the work of the Law written in their hearts, their conscience bearing witness and their thoughts alternately accusing or else defending them, on the day when, according to my gospel, God will judge the secrets of men through Christ Jesus."

and...

Matthew 22:37-40
"And He said to him, “ ‘YOU SHALL LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, AND WITH ALL YOUR SOUL, AND WITH ALL YOUR MIND.’ “This is the great and foremost commandment. “The second is like it, ‘YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.’ “On these two commandments depend the whole Law and the Prophets.”

I know, maybe Jesus didn't really say that. But maybe He really did.